Be Our Guest / Gabriela Ross

Divorce Ministry offers support in new year

Catholics who have experienced divorce often find themselves in need of support and unsure where to turn.

While the circumstances surrounding a divorce may vary, there are common experiences that merit reflection, prayer and healing. Because family members and close friends are intimately connected to the individuals who are going—or have gone—through the process of divorce, it can be challenging to find the depth of support that is needed for such a significant life event.

In addition, many Catholics feel distanced from the Church following a divorce and need to know how they may continue to fit in with their Church community. This is where “Divorce and Beyond” comes in.

As a pastoral outreach of the archdiocesan Office of Marriage and Family Life, the Divorce and Beyond support group offers men and women a place to grieve, to process and to pray as they begin their journey of healing after divorce.

Through the process of group meetings, participants come to see how God is still present in their lives and has not forsaken them, even after divorce.

The small group leaders are Catholic individuals who have been through the experience of divorce and have personally benefited from a support group in the past. They are committed to walking with others going through this very difficult time of life and are convinced that healing can be found within the Church community.

The following questions and answers provide a window into the format of Divorce and Beyond.

What is a typical support group like?

A support group usually consists of five to eight men and women who are divorced or are separated and working through the process of divorce. A support group will help participants to explore some of the feelings that come with divorce, such as anger, denial and guilt. The format enables participants to hear from others who have experienced similar difficulties.

When they are ready, participants are invited to begin to share their own story in a safe and confidential environment.

Who can come?

The support group is offered for Catholic individuals who are divorced or are going through the process of divorce. Individuals of other faith traditions have also found this group and benefitted from the support of compassionate leaders and the wisdom of the Church. Therefore, people of all faith traditions are welcome to attend.

Some individuals question whether this group would benefit them if it has been many years since their divorce was finalized, or if they are currently in the process of divorce. Regardless of the time frame since a person began filing for divorce or completed the process, attending a support group may provide a new opportunity for further healing.

Why is this ministry so important?

During the coronavirus pandemic, many have experienced a time of increased isolation. This has been particularly difficult for those going through divorce who have already experienced significant isolation. Intense feelings of loss and grief accompany the emotional roller coaster following separation or divorce. Current restrictions have made it even more difficult to find someone with whom to share one’s experience, which can be a first step in the healing process. A sense of isolation can worsen the process of denial and prevent someone from beginning the process of healing.

When will the next group meet?

The spring session of Divorce and Beyond will be held for six consecutive Wednesday evenings, starting on Jan. 20 and ending on Feb. 24, from 7-9 p.m. at the Benedict Inn Retreat & Conference Center, 1402 Southern Ave., in Beech Grove. The cost is $20, and scholarships are available.

To register or for more information, go to www.archindy.org/divorce.
 

(For more information on the ministries of the archdiocesan Office of Marriage and Family Life, contact office director Gabriela Ross at 317-592-4007 or gross@archindy.org.) †